Below are some tips from an article we came across that speaks to some important tips for parents who have recently become Facebook friends with their child; and for parents who may be new to Facebook. These are helpful tips that can help avoid some of the faux pas’ of sharing and the dos’ and don’ts’ of this new social trend.
Today, most of children share their social life via posts on Facebook! Being friends with them on Facebook is critical especially if you want to know what is going on in their life. Being familiar with the site and acknowledging this fact will help parents understand their child’s social life both online and offline. Communication is key and is always important, but remember that some children have “fake” Facebook accounts so it is important to be aware of this; and to look into parental monitoring software like WebWatcher, and WebWatcher Mobile because software like this can help ensure that appropriate sharing on Facebook and online behavior overall is a non-issue.
1. Don’t over-share. Do all 1,200 of your son’s friends need to know that he still sucks his thumb at night or that he bombed his driving test? No and no! If you think a wall comment will embarrass your child, it will. If you don’t have anything nice to say… hold back. Respect your children’s privacy online and off. It shows them you care. It also teaches them to respect their own privacy.
2. Realize that everyone sees your comments. Tread lightly and always remember that all of your children’s Facebook friends can view every single comment you oh-so-lovingly post on their walls. That includes their BFFs, classmates, and (potentially) employers and teachers. Communicating on Facebook is anything but a private affair.
3. Don’t pry. It’s okay to casually ask your kid how he’s doing on his wall — but only once in a long while. Not every day or even every week, and certainly not every hour. I’m a 36-year-old mom of three, and it would even embarrass me if my parents bugged me too often on Facebook. Thankfully they don’t, but that doesn’t mean they don’t stalk my wall anyway. (Ahem, mentioning my status updates during phone conversations is a dead giveaway.)
4. Don’t get too personal. Some topics are never okay to bring up on your teen’s wall, like why the heck did they dump their significant other or if that fancy acne cream you bought them is clearing things up. Ask sensitive parent-child questions in person, in email, or via text or private Facebook message instead. Model the restraint you want them to have.
Sometimes you’ll get lucky, and the answers to your questions will already be on your child’s wall anyway, thanks to status updates and Place check-ins flowing in every two minutes.
5. Don’t tag your child in photos. Not even the adorable brace-face ones — at least not without asking if it’s okay first. Save those gems for Awkward Family Photos! Er, we mean, skip tagging altogether, and give tweens and teens a chance to forge their own identity online. Each pic you tag with her name — even those drooly baby pics — automagically appears in their profiles. Besides, you don’t want anyone to snag those precious baby photos and then pretend your kid is theirs. This actually recently just happened to a friend of mine! Some woman was pretending that my friend’s daughter was her daughter. My friend came across this woman’s profile and immediately reported it to Facebook, but Facebook was unable to help because the woman ended up blocking my friend, so she couldn’t know for sure if the pictures were removed…scary stuff!
6. Never assume your kid can chat just because he or she is logged in. If your daughter doesn’t reply to your Facebook chat request right away, she either forgot to log out, stepped away from the laptop, or — brace yourself — might not even feel like chatting with you.
Try not to take it personally. All three of my teenaged babysitters prefer not to chat with their parents on Facebook (or anywhere online) at all, “like ever.” Texts and Facetime do the trick, they say.
7. Never, ever reply to comments for your kids. They cringe when you speak on their behalf in person. Why would you do it on Facebook? Even if you’re dying to tell your daughter’s friends that yes, she did get into Harvard, it’s best to let your teen toot her own horn.
8. Don’t nag kids to do their chores. It’s not cool to remind them to scrub the toilet, fold the laundry, or take care of just about any other task right there on their walls for everyone to see (and laugh at). You’ll only tick kids off. And, more importantly, you’ll waste precious time you could spend nagging them in person.
9. Don’t stalk their significant others. This starts with not friending said person in the first place. But if for some reason you are Facebook friends, don’t comment on his or her wall. It mortifies your teen and makes you look meddlesome. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t peek around their Info page, though, hint, hint.
10. Don’t chide or punish them. “You’re grounded, mister!” is probably the last comment any kid wants littering their wall. Sure, disciplining kids via Facebook makes them feel worse about whatever it is they did, but admonishing your kids in such a public way erodes their trust in you. You’ll also miss out on a valuable opportunity to talk to them in person about their behavior and what they should do to make it right.
11. Don’t Like too much. Don’t Like every picture, status update, comment, or link your teen posts. In fact, don’t Like much at all. Sure, everyone likes a virtual pat here and there, but don’t go overboard — not when your future adults are forging their own identities online, and, like it or not, asserting their independence from you.
An update from the School Bullying Council stated that “Schools will have broader authority to crack down on cyberbullying with a new electronic harassment law the Legislature passed this year. If Gov. Peter Shumlin signs the bill, which he is expected to do in the coming weeks, principals and administrators will be able to discipline students who use online methods to harass or bully another student.
Parents should take note that this law identifies cyberbullying in statute for the first time, and it also allows school administrators to suspend or expel a student for an action that does not occur during the school day or on school property.
This makes it all the more important for parents to be aware of what is going on with their child’s social life both online and offline. Communication with your child is always key, but parental monitoring software like WebWatcher, and WebWatcher Mobile can help ensure that cyberbullying on your child’s PC is a non-issue.
Parents should watch this video immediately! Dr. Drew Pinksy, an American radio and television personality, board-certified internist and addiction medicine specialist discusses the upward trend in prescription drug use and abuse.
• Teen prescription drug abuse is a growing concern. 1 in 5 high school students has taken a prescription medication that was not prescribed for them by a doctor, and more teens abuse prescription drugs than illegal drugs except marijuana.”
• In 2008, 4.7 million teens reported that they had abused a prescription drug at some time in their lives.
Texting has become one of the more rampant forms of communication over the past few years, especially among teens. The average teenager sends more than 3,000 texts per month, which works out to more than six texts per waking hour! That’s a lot of texts. With the increase in cell phone usage the increase in text messages are also on the rise.
A Nielson study showed that “In 2008, the main reason anybody got a phone was for safety, even among teenagers.” That’s not true anymore as “43% of teenagers now say texting is the number one reason they get a cell phone. Safety is number two, with 35%, while 34% of teenagers say they get cell phones to keep in touch with friends.”
Nielsen also recently analyzed the “mobile data habits of more than 60,000 mobile subscribers and surveyed more than 3,000 teens during April, May and June of this year. This study revealed that:
The number of texts being sent is on the rise, especially among teenagers age 13 to 17
The average teenager now sends 3,339 texts per month
Teen females send 4,050 texts per month, while teen males send an average of 2,539 texts
Teens are sending 8% more texts than they were this time last year.
This trend will continue to rapidly grow over time, making it all the more imperative to talk to your children about who they’re communicating with, and also be able to advise them on what kind of messages are appropriate and inappropriate to send through this means of communication. However, parents should also find comfort that although the use of technology for communicating keeps changing, there are ways for them to still be able to supervise their children. Mobile monitoring software like WebWatcher Mobile on BlackBerry and Android devices provides the transparency parents need to be sure their children are safe on their cell phones.
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